THE JOURNEY TO LOVE YOURSELF
THE HOXTON HOTEL AMSTERDAM | March 21, 2017
Some roads may seem endless. And than I am not talking about the road that takes you to your wintersport- or a summer destination from 1,000 km faraway. I am talking about roads in life. Paths that may lead to a successful career. Paths that may lead to great relationships. Paths to explore the world and make wonderful memories. But all these paths and choices you make in life, form one journey. A journey to find yourself. Might sounds wooly from a point of view, but let’s be real. Each day you are dealing with new challenges which you may go for, or not. About choices you may make, or refuse to make. About joy you may feel, or sadness instead. And about love. Love you may feel, or hate in return.
Love is a broad concept. We all know what it means, but have different opinions about that as well. For example; I love croissants with cheese and marmalade. Gosh, I love them. But I also love my friends and my life in Amsterdam. But there is nothing I love more than anything in the world than my family, which of course, may seem obvious for most of us. As you see, love has different stages. I don’t love croissants as much as I love my friends, and I don’t love my friends as much as my family. But what goes beyond that? Exactly. Loving yourself. Nothing in this world is more important than you. Just you.
May sounds simple on the surface. ‘If I love my family and they love me, it’s fair enough to love myself’. Yes, true. But if you look at yourself in the mirror, there are just a very view people who can really say ‘I love myself’. Really, just a very view. I know some, my dad for example. He is a great model of how you should love yourself. Not over done in any sort of way, but just being happy with who he is and what he has. Yet still I wonder, if even he loves hisself as much as we should love ourself. Because to the outside world he may look confident about everything, but I am sure even he is not.
Hope I am not getting confusing over here. Just want to clear things out that even the people you think love theirselves a 100%, may not do that. And I don’t think we can love ourselves a 100%. We are not God and maybe even if we ask him the question, he cannot fully answer it with a 100%. But that’s okay, that’s just something we have to deal with. The most important thing is to love ourself as much as we can. Believe me, it can be an endless journey. That’s the main reason why people start backpacking right? To find their ‘true self’. Yes, even these paths may lead to your true ‘me’, but there are a 100,000 others that do as well. We never stop learning and we never stop loving more.
So now, look in the mirror. Tell yourself the things you see and be positive. Think about the things you have, the things you achieved and the things you are currently working on. When I do this at myself, I can tell ‘me’ that I have a loving family, wonderful friends, one of the most beautiful apartments in Amsterdam, have a job which I love, traveled with my job to faraway places and work on projects to improve myself and inspire people with it. Is that arrogant to say? No. I believe it’s motivating and inspiring to say, as I love to hear these stories from others as well. I love to feel happy for others achievements, their happiness and even more, their self love.
I might sound like I am already there, ‘loving myself’. But believe me, I struggle a lot with this as well. That’s why I share my story with you today. Or even better said, my vision. If we are not honest with each other, we also cannot support one another. So when I say I am also not fully loving myself, but that am I working on it, I hope I can motivate you to do the same. Because how wonderful would it be if we all loved each other as much as we should love ourselves? This endless journey is called life and that makes it hella interesting.